tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post3045248943504168637..comments2015-07-13T12:44:51.432+01:00Comments on The ups and downs in the life of Shellie B: Misunderstood and confused............Shellie_Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10605173390952294679noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-91523786939199022962011-03-21T20:09:05.819+00:002011-03-21T20:09:05.819+00:00Hi, Shellie:
I rescued a small dog a year ago. ...Hi, Shellie: <br /><br />I rescued a small dog a year ago. At least, that's what I thought. In fact, she rescued me by giving me an opening into a larger world. <br /><br />If it helps, many people have felt as you have in the past and will feel as you feel in the future. The best gift you can give yourself is to acknowledge your pain, incorporate the past into your present self, and work towards a better day for yourself. <br /><br />The world has changed. Amazing, huh? Twitter and your wonderful blog have made your circle of friends larger than you can ever imagine. <br /><br />We hope you allow yourself to embrace this new reality - that people, from all over the place, enjoy your company and want to chat with you. <br /><br />Wishing you only the best.<br /><br />Diana & SashaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-57314901034399189992011-03-21T16:27:55.674+00:002011-03-21T16:27:55.674+00:00Shelly,
I'm glad you're back in touch. Ple...Shelly,<br />I'm glad you're back in touch. Please know that there are a lot of people who are still concerned about you. We don't want to pry, but we do care.<br /><br />My staff1 lost her mother 25 years ago, and also has a chronic disease (less scary than yours, but extremely painful), so she understands a little bit of what you've been going through. She finds that blogging, and participating in Twitter and Facebook, are helpful in maintaining the emotional connections she has with family and friends. They are also a good way of making new connections: people to share worries and laughs with, even if they don't become close friends.<br /><br />Social media *can* become overwhelming, though, so she's done a couple of things that help her feel more in control.<br /><br />1. She has two blogs, one public-facing one for sharing and a second private one where she does her serious venting and soul-searching. She does share worries and irritations on her public blog, but uses the private one to sort out her thoughts before deciding what to post on the public blog.<br /><br />2. She used to have two cats, Orpheus and Quark, and had Twitter accounts for both of them. That was way to much to keep up with---it became a burden---so she combined them into one account. That was much less stressful. (I notice that quite a few anipals use joint accounts.)<br /><br />I want to join with others in urging you to continue to use Twitter at some level. <br /><br />Thank you for listening.Midnight and staffhttp://twitter.com/Midnightpurrsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-64691743170522145422011-03-21T02:59:12.918+00:002011-03-21T02:59:12.918+00:00Shellie,
I lost my mother a few days after Christ...Shellie,<br /><br />I lost my mother a few days after Christmas in 2008 and by February 2009 I was a basket case. If it had not been for Twitter and the anipal community I would not be here today. <br /><br />We would love for you and your kitties to join us again when you are up to it. And when you are please find me @BorisKittyBoris Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07588209144272012310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-64497463647448382812011-03-20T23:06:04.768+00:002011-03-20T23:06:04.768+00:00Hi Shelly,
We all go thru times where we feel dow...Hi Shelly,<br /><br />We all go thru times where we feel down and at a loss for where to go. It happens, and the next day, things look a bit different.<br /><br />From reading your blog, it looks to me like you are very courageous in confronting the many challenges before you. You are very talented and you use your creativity to help you cope. I admire that.<br /><br />As others have said, there are people all over the world who care and want to be there for you, even if you only know them through your pets' twitter accounts. Those are real people behind those animal avatars. And they are some of the most caring people in the world.<br /><br />I too hope that you will reconsider removing your anipal Twitter accounts and that you return to your social media friends for support. If you do, please find me @BZTAT and my cat @BrewskieButt. We would love to be your friend.<br /><br />BZTAT and the BrewAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02037705266015834887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-5260349309967251502011-03-20T22:23:33.713+00:002011-03-20T22:23:33.713+00:00Hi Shellie,
my name is Zec, I am zecrich on twitte...Hi Shellie,<br />my name is Zec, I am zecrich on twitter & i was told about the hurt that you was feeling.<br />I have been through some very low times over the past few years, I was a lay minister until the priest took it away to hide his faults, I was accused of faking my disability and have been snubbed by people I thought were friends.<br /><br />I have come out of the other side and i am so much strongerr now and I believe that we are on a journey and sometimes it is bumpy, very very bumpy.<br /><br />The comments on here show how much people care, never be ashamed of who you are or what you have done, you have your part to play in this world and maybe someone can be helped by your story.<br /><br />please feel free to add me on twitter and i will DM you my email and you can mail me anytime you feel you need to talk or let off steam<br /><br />ZecZec Richardsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13915350585079100283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-40873889915396892182011-03-20T21:27:21.112+00:002011-03-20T21:27:21.112+00:00I saw you on Twitter last night talking to Sophie ...I saw you on Twitter last night talking to Sophie just as I got in from the pub at around 2am. I figured I'd catch up with what was going on this evening and it let me to this journal. I'm still so worried about you though. Don't feel like you have to battle the world alone, because that's just not true. Tell me that the comments above don't make you feel at loved and surrounded by friends and I won't believe you. Reach out and we'll all always reach back. You've made some good friends online in such a short space of time because you're a special personality with a lot of soul and emotion. Turning your back on it isn't the answer. xxxxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-43817081301851774842011-03-20T20:57:45.334+00:002011-03-20T20:57:45.334+00:00Hi Shellie - I was really concerned last night tha...Hi Shellie - I was really concerned last night that you'd closed your twitter accounts and when i read your blog it sounded like someone who intended not to be around any more. I think those of us who were on twitter couldn't do nothing and as we couldn't talk to you we didnt know what to do. I secretly thought you wouldn't leave your beloved cats but just wanted to be sure you were ok so couldn't go to bed until i knew! <br />I think it would be good to be back on twitter - there have been some laughs on there! There are some good people on there who are there 24 7. My mobile is currently no more so I can tweet when i'm at the computer. Stay in touch - Emma xHisforhousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08542779548148020575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-30672081562130891502011-03-20T19:57:45.653+00:002011-03-20T19:57:45.653+00:00Hi Shellie. Please don't feel bad or think you...Hi Shellie. Please don't feel bad or think you are misunderstood. We all understand, all of us having gone through tough times in our lives. Believe me, at this point in my life it would be so easy to just give up and want to stop. But please understand that there are so many of us who know how you feel and are here for you. We all need to pull together now, and not isolate ourselves from others. Please come back to twitter. Together we can be strong, but on our own it is very hard to bear these burdens.<br /><br />You are loved. We really do care. Be strong. Please come back to twitter and let us all work together to help each other carry our burdens.<br /><br />Blessings, Lisa - @lgriffis on twitter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-32744983412240040332011-03-20T18:04:09.678+00:002011-03-20T18:04:09.678+00:00I agree with Annette, don't take crap from tha...I agree with Annette, don't take crap from that co-worker....expose him for what he is.<br />Your friends on Twitter will be missing you, if you can.....come back.<br />Take care, MarieRosie PosieTomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03296645546225697158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-46000398381220230272011-03-20T17:41:27.220+00:002011-03-20T17:41:27.220+00:00Hi Shellie,
I was also on twitter last night and ...Hi Shellie,<br /><br />I was also on twitter last night and know how many people were concerned about you. Please don't feel embarrassed - just know that there are many, many people around the world who care about you. Maybe when you're feeling better you'll come back to twitter. I know all your friends will be happy to see you.<br /><br />BJC/vscAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14452406596865831252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-46613307388545162742011-03-20T17:03:49.871+00:002011-03-20T17:03:49.871+00:00Hi Shellie,
We haven't met on twitter but I...Hi Shellie,<br />We haven't met on twitter but I'm sorry to see you're having a rough time, and I saw the concern and stress experienced by some of your friends trying to help you.<br />You clearly realise your situation caused you to make a mistake and it's great to see you've apologised here - you are already standing on your own two feet. <br />Don't cut yourself off from social networks... Please go back on twitter and respond to the friends who were calling out to you. They wanted to help then, and they want to help now. <br />Remember, many of us have a shield up around the baggage we all carry. Some of your twitter friends might be as low/upset as you were, and they need you to bring things back to normal after the stressful situation you were all in.<br />Restore those friendships and they'll reward you over time, no doubt. We all need each other.<br />I feel the pain you are experiencing re your Mum. I lost my Dad 22 years ago and it still hurts everyday. I was his baby. I am still his baby! My coping strategy is to talk to him (all the time!) & live my life as if he's still around me. I can't see or touch him, but I can feel his presence & guidance (he's my angel now). He taught me to be a good person, he was proud of me... So I make sure I continue to make him proud. It seems to me you were a great support to your Mum, and she would have been very very proud of you - So keep making her proud, and take strength from the fact that she is. Be strong, I think you can do it.<br />I checked out your last post (as you referred to signs in a previous post). I saw a very switched on yet frustrated exec... not someone suicidal, just someone with very high standards being incredibly bothered by a co-worker. You're right Shellie, he's taking the piss! I've been a manager of people for many years... The only person you need to worry about at work is your boss (& maybe their boss!). Work on your relationship with your boss, make sure they know how passionate and committed you are, and then dob the jerk in!!! Seriously, don't bicker with him or your peers, find a tactful way to raise it with your manager.<br />Finally, I hope you don't mind me responding to your blog in this way. I wish I could pick up the phone and talk with you... but I'm in Australia & it's nearly 4am! Shellie, in addition to your blog & twitter, I hope you can find someone to speak with... Referring to the banners on your blog - perhaps a therapist might be better value than blogging!!! Please don't isolate yourself, surely your GP would understand your situation - Everyone thinks I'm a strong person, but my GP knows everything about me... her view would be different. I hope you can download with your GP... if not, give it a go!!! :)<br />Good luck Shellie, be strong, <br />Annette (Isagold's mum on twtr)<br />p.s. congrats on all the things you've achieved recently re your job etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-23008848677215461222011-03-20T15:48:30.855+00:002011-03-20T15:48:30.855+00:00The twitter community was very concerned for you a...The twitter community was very concerned for you and of course had no way of knowing whether you were serious or not- so felt that they had to do something. i do not think that you need be embarrased or remove yourself from your social networking sites. Just know that there are many people out there who care for you. please also know that people have no way of knowing whether you were serious or not? What was done was out of caring for another fellow human being.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-59793204468178445502011-03-20T14:35:44.528+00:002011-03-20T14:35:44.528+00:00As I said in our email, Otis and I are here for yo...As I said in our email, Otis and I are here for you anytime, day or night, hours behind you, but always available. The pain of losing your mum will never go away, but you can share it with others so that we can help you carry that burden.<br /><br />Patti and OtisAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18190065252633124268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-32150472905791807972011-03-20T14:16:01.222+00:002011-03-20T14:16:01.222+00:00I was on Twitter last night and concerned about yo...I was on Twitter last night and concerned about you. Please know that all over the world, there are people who support you and want you to be safe and hope for the best for you. You have so much to struggle with, but you don't have to do it alone. When you feel sad and alone, please remember that there are people wishing you well, ready to support you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3973540523044831060.post-802221370612729482011-03-20T13:39:46.241+00:002011-03-20T13:39:46.241+00:00I am here for you Shellie, anytime !I am here for you Shellie, anytime !Gina O'Connornoreply@blogger.com